Message from Scott Cowie, head, Senior Division
Monday, Sept. 29: Principal’s assembly, Laidlaw Hall, 8:30 a.m.; guest speakers Jeff Needham and Justis Danto-Clancy
Tuesday, Sept. 30: IB1 parent information evening, student centre, 7 p.m.
Friday, Oct. 3: Duke of Edinburgh meeting and registration for all Year 2 boys and new boys in Foundation Year and IB1, lecture theatre, 12:30 to 1 p.m.
The boys heard from Dr. Adam Cox in Monday’s assembly. Dr. Cox has been with us before and, as usual, his address was relevant and engaging.
As a well-reputed psychologist, Cox has done a great deal of significant research involving the education of young people. But some of his most recent work, captured in a study titled Locating Significance in the Lives of Boys, took him to 20 different independent boys’ schools around the globe. He spent time speaking with young men of diverse cultural backgrounds who have an array of academic and co-curricular interests to try to better understand how they define meaning in their lives. In concluding his address, Cox shared a number of short statements with his audience from insights that he gleaned from his extensive study of boys around the world. These statements represent what boys conveyed were important to them. A few of them struck a chord with me:
- “Boys want to honour their parents by living up to their potential.”
- “Boys listen to what their fathers say about being a good man.”
- “Boys wished their parents knew how hard they worked.”
- “Boys want to be recognized for their accomplishments and, when they are, they will work even harder.”
- “Boys don’t always get asked the important questions of life. Too much time is spent telling rather than asking.”
Reflecting on my role as a parent, I’m drawn to that last statement. If I was honest with myself, I’d have to admit that I probably do a lot more “telling than asking” when interacting with my kids. That’s certainly an area for me to work on in my life.
It’s interesting to note that much of what the boys expressed as being significant in their lives revolves around character: working hard, being honourable and being a good man. Cox ended his address with a reference to the movie Gladiator as he stepped down from the stage, gripped the forearms of students in the front row and said: “Strength and honour.”
I’d encourage you to ask your son about his views on Cox’s message and challenge him to “have the strength to do what’s right and the honour to do it well.”
Thanks for reading.